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[noahgibbs]

I've been called recently on my creepy behavior. Ordinarily I give my most psychotic grin at that point rather than dignifying the results with a more serious reaction. However, in this specific case, the point hits home.

So I'd de-friended some people that have de-friended me, and some others who never friended me at all. If, for some reason, you haven't friended me and you still read my journal, feel free to comment or e-mail me and ask to be added back. I don't have anything against you, I'm just doing spring cleaning.

Comments

[ex-five-by-f291.livejournal.com]

There is a difference between e-stalking and reading someones journal that they have you friended on! If it's such a big deal, she should have de-added you a long time ago!

[tshuma]

You have creepy behaviors? But you're so straight-forward....

[darthsunshine.livejournal.com]

I think I'm missing the creepy behavior in all of this. Then again, I'm of the firm opinion that anybody who wants to is welcome to read my journal (and the corollary that I'll friend/read the journal of anybody I find interesting for any reason). If I want the information in my journal limited, that's what filters are for, and I'm the one who has control over those filters. I assume that other LJers will do the same.

*shrugs*

[angelbob.livejournal.com]

In this case, it's an ex-girlfriend who sort of wishes I didn't hang around and still keep up with her. I think. She's very conflicted on the point and quite passive-aggressive in her approach (hello!) and responds very poorly to me either interacting with her or not interacting with her, which leaves me in a bit of a bind.

However, once she has explicitly made such a request (if putting a complaint in a journal she only assumes I read, naming no names, leaving it for a couple of days and then de-friending me on that journal constitutes a 'request'), I feel compelled to honor it, at least if it's basically reasonable. Saying 'I want you to de-friend my journal' is, once the layers of badness of the request are stripped away, a basically reasonable request.

I tend to respond to requests of that kind (basically reasonable but phrased in a highly insulting way) in kind. That is, I grant the request in a highly insulting and usually charming and flamboyant way.

Well, okay, maybe "charming and flamboyant" is optimistic. Let's say light-hearted ;-)

[lady-phoenixice.livejournal.com]

Sweetie? when are you ever *not* charming and flamboyant? I thought that was just natural for you...

[r-transpose-p.livejournal.com]

Is this an ex I would know (by which I mean the only one of your ex's who I can claim to actually know)?

[angelbob.livejournal.com]

Hm. Don't think so. I'm trying to remember which one you know.

[kest]

I haven't friended you, you haven't friended me, sometimes I read your journal. In case you wanted to know. Public entries are public entries, IMO.

[angelbob.livejournal.com]

You're more than welcome to. I'd happily friend you if you care about my private entries, of which there are relatively few. *shrug*

[tg2k.livejournal.com]

I agree with kest. I believe astralagos once said to me that you should figure on anything you post online can at some point be seen by anybody; don't expect privacy. It's a good rule to remember to keep from ranting about someone, since at some point later they may read what you wrote--even if it is restricted somehow.

As to the other intent of your post, I just noticed your userid from someone else's journal, remembered you a bit from CMU, and friended you. Feel free to friend me or ask me to de-friend you. Or, heck, ask me to lunch before I move away from the Bay next month.

For what it's worth, your response to the other LJ'er seems basically reasonable to me.

[xeyda.livejournal.com]

The only creepy you have, dear, is the good kind. But hey, you know that. =)

[rightkindofme.livejournal.com]

Dude! You do Noah-isms too!!! I can't fucking shake them...

[rightkindofme.livejournal.com]

I should have said: But then, you would.

[xeyda.livejournal.com]

*laugh* Aye, I noticed that he and I share some speech (a fair amount) and facial (not so many) mannerisms after our second meeting. It was quite amusing =p

[miss-mimsy.livejournal.com]

Or you instead of assuming that the post was all about you, since I mentioned no names, or assuming that I was being passive aggressive, you could give me the benefit of the doubt.

My life has been on a steady downward trend and after four nights of insufficient sleep and another creepy ex who has been a real ass of late I just blew my top. Sorry, you were just caught in the shrapnel.

Maybe instead of being passive aggressive, I consider it being polite not to call someone up out of the blue and dump my crappy life on them, especially at 2 in the morning. I was hoping that by writing it out it would help me sleep. (It did)

Yeah, it really isn't my business who friends mr and who doesn't, you are right there. If I didn't want you to read stuff, I know how to filter. Just having your name there, lurking, hurt. I am sorry if you can't understand why, perhaps I could explain it better in person.

Hey, you know instead of making assumptions and speculating about it, you could just call me up and ask me. I don't know, this entry seems just as passive aggressive as mine, since it is neither confrontational nor is their any guarantee that I would read it (except that you knew I would.) I can at least excuse mine due to insomnia and some hard knocks recently, your entry was planned. Well done sir. The glory of passive aggressive people, we don't do confrontation well, we just try to incite it. You seem to have picked up that trick quite well.

So gauntlets have been thrown by both of us. I think one of your housemates along with a host of other mutual friends are right, either one of us leaves the state or we need to get locked in a room and see who comes out alive, because this has just gotten ridiculous.

[tshuma]

I think one of your housemates along with a host of other mutual friends are right, either one of us leaves the state or we need to get locked in a room and see who comes out alive, because this has just gotten ridiculous.

Neither I nor bk2w said any such thing. Leave us out of it.

[miss-mimsy.livejournal.com]

I apologize, neither of you said any such thing. It was said by someone not associated with the house, I spoke out of turn.

[tshuma]

Thank you.