The places I've worked haven't had a problem with deciding women were incompetent. However, that hasn't been the complaint I've heard from the women I've heard complain of sexism. Generally they were competent and acknowledged as such (disclaimer: not always. Some places do that badly too).

The problem I've heard discussed lately is that the guys they worked with tended to make them uncomfortable (example: telling a lot of dirty jokes) and when confronted, tend to intensify that behavior rather than toning it down.

On the one hand, I don't remember seeing that in my workplaces. On the other hand, I'm much less sure that I'd notice that than that I'd notice discrimination based on ability.

But yeah, the complaints I'm hearing currently aren't directly based on ability. Maybe that's progress? I don't feel qualified to say one way or the other.

So yeah. I'm not seeing much sexism either, but it's been pointed out to me that I'm looking in the wrong place.