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I was talking to [livejournal.com profile] ravenslost recently about the fact that I tend to go for specific not-good-for-me crazy people (no, nobody I'm currently dating is in that category, though some exes are). And [livejournal.com profile] ravenslost was trying to see the appeal. To a large extent I don't really know it, but here's something that came to me and rang true...

When you're dating somebody you know is crazy in an identified way, the other shoe comes pre-dropped.

Date: 2005-02-23 06:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] king-chiron.livejournal.com
Better the shoe you know than the shoe you don't?

Date: 2005-02-24 12:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] plantgirl.livejournal.com
I know a fair number of people who have that same tendency (mostly men). With most of them it seems to connect to a desire to be able to play the knight in shining armor.

However, I know one person who consistently is attracted to people who have problems with depression, and it seems to be an attraction to the perverse/morbid humor that can be displayed by the seriously depressed.

Date: 2005-02-24 05:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] angelbob.livejournal.com
Yeah. I'm pretty sure I'm over my Knight-in-shining-armor reaction to these folks, partly because I'm just not good enough at it. I *do* enjoy the sparring, but that's not quite the same thing :-)

Date: 2005-03-07 12:56 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] internet-addict.livejournal.com
So, you've generally preferred to trade the unknown other shoe for the well-known Sword of Damocles?

Date: 2005-03-07 07:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] angelbob.livejournal.com
Indeed. Other shoes come in a very wide variety of shapes, colors, weights and sharpnesses. Swords have, at least, a much narrower range.

Date: 2005-03-07 07:17 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] internet-addict.livejournal.com
Ah, straight and to the point.
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